Grandpa (1931-2014)

James / October 9th, 2014

My grandpa passed away last Saturday. He was the last of my grandparents to go. He’ll never be forgotten. He has lived through a lot of history and was in the Navy. Always had stories to tell. He was a big family man. Loved his grandchildren.

 

He was a game-man too. He always liked playing darts, shuffleboard, horse shoes, bowling, and introduced me to Atari and many obscure computer games while I was very young. He also invented the hilarious quote “picking fly shit out of pepper while wearing boxing gloves” which he said to me, when I was still very young. Obivously I never forgot it, because I’ve used it in AVGN.

 

The family will miss him very much. The funeral was yesterday. I’m moving on now. Just thought I’d write about it. The show goes on at Cinemassacre, but maybe now I’ve given you all something you can relate to, for anyone who has lost a loved one. It’s just part of life, that everyone goes through.

Comments

  • RichardE

    October 9, 2014 at 11:56 am

    My condolences James, may he rest in peace and may the good memories of him continue to bring a smile to your face.

  • October 9, 2014 at 11:59 am

    As sorry as I am to hear about your grandpa, i’m more concerned about the rather passive attitude you have here. Of course it’s good to address that life goes on and moving on is important, but this isn’t a celebrity you admired, this is a man you knew your whole life who semi-raised you. All i’m saying is that I hope you have time to mourn, because it’s healthy to get your endorphins out, and perfectly okay. R.I.P to your old man, and good luck in getting through these hard times.

    • Santa Horse

      October 9, 2014 at 6:20 pm

      To be fair, many people don’t overly mourn their grandparents unless they die in a really sad or painful way. Everyone has to go so someone dying in their 80’s isn’t especially heartbreaking. And bear in mind, as James said, he died five days ago so he’s had adequate time to grieve. Next step is fond reflection. But everyone copes in different ways anyway so, while your concern is well meaning, it’s not really up to you or anyone else to criticise someone for not being sad enough about something especially when it’s the one thing that’s ultimately inevitable for all of us.

      • October 9, 2014 at 8:21 pm

        I happen to agree with you Santa, my grandfather passed a couple years back, and while I couldn’t talk about loosing him, I could smile anytime I thought of his laugh, or how he would always say Hello David to me. I miss him yes, but I was lucky, I got to spend 20 extra years with him in my life, 20 extra years that NO doc gave him.

      • October 10, 2014 at 10:51 am

        I apologise if I came off critical, that is not what I meant to appear at all. James is aloud to go about this in any way that works for him, and given that one of my grandfather’s is alive and well, and the other died at an age I can’t even remember, I can’t say I know what the experience is like. I just wanted to offer the best support I could and add an idea that might not have occurred to him (as unlikely as me inspiring him may be).

    • Senna4ever

      October 15, 2014 at 5:28 am

      Errr, what?
      How do you know James is being “passive” at all?

      He could very well be deep in mourning over his loss, but keeping all that much more personal.
      He just felt he should pass on the info about his grandfather.

      It’s rather presumptuous of you claim James is being “passive”.

  • Daniel Sargent

    October 9, 2014 at 12:00 pm

    Thank you for sharing.

  • Peter Crounse

    October 9, 2014 at 12:03 pm

    We all do have to go through it James, and yes it’s a necessary part of life, but it still sucks. You never want to lose a loved one. Maybe it gives us an opportunity to reflect on them in a way that we can’t do in life. All my condolences, and I have to imagine that he was proud of you for this little empire you’ve built.

  • Taylor85

    October 9, 2014 at 12:37 pm

    My condolences James, the lost of dear persons is probably the worst thing in this life

  • October 9, 2014 at 12:41 pm

    Sorry bro.

  • MAMEFan

    October 9, 2014 at 12:48 pm

    In honor of grandpa.

    This game is so hard, it would actually be easier to go outside in a thunderstorm and try to dodge rain. It would be easier to walk barefoot without your toes or heels touching the floor. It would be easier to pick fly shit out of pepper, while wearing boxing gloves!

  • Eggman_Chaotix

    October 9, 2014 at 1:05 pm

    I just lost my last grand parent too, my grand mother this monday. Funerals are this saturday. As much as it hurts, you’re right saying that we all go trough it and I find it comforting. Even though she passed away, she will still be alive in my heart and mind in some ways.

    Thanks for sharing your story, it comes at exactly the right moment for me.

    • October 9, 2014 at 1:12 pm

      Very sorry to hear about your grandmother. But glad that my blog came at the right time. That’s what I was hoping.

  • October 9, 2014 at 1:34 pm

    My condolences go out to you and your family James.

  • Thifurious

    October 9, 2014 at 1:53 pm

    I’m sorry for your loss James. It sounds like you have a lot of great memories of him, and that’s something special that can’t be taken away. I think it’s really cool that you can share things like that on your website; it says a lot about your character, and the community of fans you’ve got.

    Take care man 🙂

  • October 9, 2014 at 2:22 pm

    Sorry for you loss James.

  • AxBunny

    October 9, 2014 at 2:56 pm

    This is so weird. Today is my grandma’s birthday, she’s 96, and she’s the last grandparent I have. I can’t help but feel odd knowing you lost your last grandparent on the same day. He sounds like quite a character, and even tho he’s gone it sounds like the time you spent together really counted!

  • October 9, 2014 at 3:08 pm

    RIP

  • October 9, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    My dearest condolences goes to you, James and your family, I know how you feel, My Grandpa was like a best friend and seen alot in life, I was heartbroken when he passed, but I knew he was in a better place, take some time off if you need to dude.

  • CrushingC10996WM

    October 9, 2014 at 4:21 pm

    You have my condolences James. He sounds like a great man.

  • Legato32x

    October 9, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    Sorry to hear about your loss James! It’s never easy when you lose someone you love but you have all the love of the internet here to support you! Out of my four grandparents I only knew my grandma on my dad’s side. My grandpa on dad’s side rarely ever saw us and then passed away a few years ago. Mom’s parents were gone before I was even born. We have a pretty small family and grandparents are something I didn’t get to have a lot of growing up. Be proud that you got to have an awesome family member in your life, if only for a time.

  • Nintendomaniac

    October 9, 2014 at 5:12 pm

    Sorry to hear about your grandpa, James. All of my grandparents are gone now too. The last one, my grandma, died in 2009.

  • Lukas Sprehn

    October 9, 2014 at 5:37 pm

    My last grandparent is ill, and we may lose him soon as well, so I understand what you went through. My other grandpa, my dad’s father, died back in 2009, I think. We were very sad about that :'( My condolences James, and may he rest in peace.

  • October 9, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    God rest his soul james my man be strong and give also power to your close and loved ones for that loss.I know how it is since many years back i lost mine as well in the age of 12-13 he left us at the age of 62 and i was felt really bad since he loved us allot,i will miss him as well,and like yours has lived many things back in his era as well.I have allot to remember as well from him he taught me many good things and how sould i do the right thing.

  • Santa Horse

    October 9, 2014 at 6:24 pm

    My sincere condolences. I never met either of my grandfathers, my mother’s father died long before I was born and my father never met his dad. I lived with my mother and her mother until the latter’s death in 1998, so that was understandably the most affecting loss for me. My other grandmother died in her 90’s in 2007 but I hadn’t seen her for a few years. While obviously you’re going to be sad right now, also be glad that you got to know this man and spend so much time with him. Nobody truly dies until their memory fades anyway, so keep him close to you.

  • Jimmy Reed

    October 9, 2014 at 6:40 pm

    I’m sorry to hear that James.

  • encey

    October 9, 2014 at 7:15 pm

    Condolences to you and your family, James. Here’s to what sounds like a kickass motherfucker!

  • frostare

    October 9, 2014 at 7:26 pm

    My condolences and my prayers go to him

  • El Marques del Terror

    October 9, 2014 at 7:46 pm

    May he rest in peace James, my best wishes to you and your family, take care.

  • October 9, 2014 at 8:01 pm

    Very sorry for your loss James. He sounds like he was an awesome guy. I absolutely love that you got the “picking fly shit outta pepper” line from him. Even though we fans never knew him, he will be immortalized for that line now that we know that.

  • October 9, 2014 at 8:22 pm

    Condolences, yes, it’s part of life, but never lose those fond memories. Those can get you through some of the worst days

  • taykel

    October 9, 2014 at 8:25 pm

    I am so sorry for you loss James. I know what it is like to lose a family member. I’ll be praying for you and your family tonight. Hang in there man.

  • Steelebourne

    October 9, 2014 at 10:21 pm

    My condolences James. I’m sure he always smiled when thinking of you.

  • Don Skiver

    October 9, 2014 at 10:58 pm

    My condolences to you, James. I’m very sorry to hear about your loss.

    You know…I’ve never met either of my grandfathers… My mother’s father died when she was still young (killed by a drunk driver) and my father’s father abandoned my father when he was still a child.
    As heartbreaking as it is to see a loved one pass, you’re still very fortunate to have been able to live and experience life with them. The memories and experiences you had will last you the rest of your life and you can always turn to them when you need them.

    Death *is* a part of life…so don’t take this time to focus on his death…take this time to celebrate his life, his accomplishments, and all the good times.

    Take care, James.

  • ninonybox

    October 9, 2014 at 10:59 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss James, prayers for your family.

  • October 9, 2014 at 11:52 pm

    Sorry to hear that James. I have lost all of my grand parents too. It is always hard to deal with loss but I find teaching our children who they were is a magical experience that keeps them in our hearts and introduces our children to their past. I hope you find comfort in your family at this time.

  • October 10, 2014 at 1:10 am

    My condolences James. Part of what drives me to do what I do is because I lost my sister when I was very young. For those of you who are not aware, I am heavily influenced by James Rolfe and the Cinemassacre team, and I based the theme of Cloak & Dagger Entertainment LLC upon the theme of friendship and bonding we had… she was the one to introduce me to Super Mario Bros., and even bought me my copy of Gun Nac which I still have to this day. When our first major project debuts (which I will reveal here as Operation: Carpet Bomb), it will be dedicated to her and her memory, and the world will know why they have to thank Carolyn Melody Lafferty for Cloak & Dagger. I would encourage you to do an episode of one of your shows in his honor, James, I would very much appreciate that, and I think he would feel honored if you did a darts, shuffleboard, horse shoes, or bowling episode in his memory. No pressure though James, I could understand if it is all too sensitive. Non the less, we all know you made him proud brother, keep up the good work!

  • cammcal

    October 10, 2014 at 1:28 am

    Thanks for sharing. My condolences.

  • stoney_1

    October 10, 2014 at 1:43 am

    That was cool to share. Very sorry to hear. Time heals all wounds dude. I like old guys that have their own sayings, I hope we get to hear more of those in the future

  • October 10, 2014 at 2:27 am

    Oh man that sucks I just lost my last grandparent back in august

  • Griff

    October 10, 2014 at 2:32 am

    I’m sorry to hear that James, my grandfather was actually the same age as your’s but he died all the way back in 1997

  • KalabladeTheGeek

    October 10, 2014 at 2:53 am

    My condolences to you and your family, James. Last year, I lost my grandpa too, who was also the last of my grandparents to go. So, I understand how that feels.

    It’s good to know that he was such an inspiration to you. These are the kind of memories that make us smile long after loved ones have passed.

  • crazycarl

    October 10, 2014 at 4:03 am

    My grandpa passed away last Saturday as well, condolences.

  • bruce wayne

    October 10, 2014 at 4:13 am

    I’m sorry to hear that, hopefully you’re doing okay, I know how it feels to lose a loved one.

  • RocketeerRaccoon

    October 10, 2014 at 5:49 am

    N’aww, sorry about your loss James. RIP Grandpa.

  • Jay Baker

    October 10, 2014 at 8:07 am

    Im sorry you’re going through that man, I lost my only grandparent a while back, introduced me to SNES, and was definitely one of the greatest men I’ve ever met. Maybe they’re playing darts up in Heaven man, R.I.P.

  • October 10, 2014 at 8:09 am

    My condolences dear James, We have all lost loved ones and pray to them everyday for a better after life, may he rest in peace and go to heaven

  • Rick

    October 10, 2014 at 9:42 am

    Sorry, man. Not hard to tell the guy meant a lot to you…must’ve been more than a little hard to just share on here :/ But moving on indeed. The show must go on.

  • Pablo1989

    October 10, 2014 at 9:46 am

    RIP to him, looks like we got SAD month now, because one of Famous actress from my city olso passed away few days ago and today ive write on condolence book

  • OmegaDez

    October 10, 2014 at 10:33 am

    My deepest sympathies, James.
    I also lost my grandma this summer so I feel your pain.

  • October 10, 2014 at 11:46 am

    Condolences, James.

  • Ben_from_G-town

    October 10, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    My condolences, James. I know I am close to my Grandmother, and I’m not sure how I will react when she passes. Thanks for sharing.

  • October 10, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    my condolences James

  • GeorgeCt79

    October 10, 2014 at 2:01 pm

    My condolences to you and your family on your lost James. It sounds like he was a big inspiration to who you are today. My thoughts and prayers are with him and you and your family. May he rest in peace.

  • Entrenaturaleza

    October 10, 2014 at 2:11 pm

    You and your family have all my love.

  • October 10, 2014 at 4:10 pm

    Gosh, that is tough, and I have definitely been there before. My condolences to you and your family.

  • October 10, 2014 at 8:45 pm

    I’m sorry for your lost, James.

  • Lodmot

    October 10, 2014 at 10:21 pm

    Aww… :/
    I’m sorry to hear about that.. I know exactly how it feels. My grandmother whom I was really close to died in August of 2013. That was really hard on everyone, and I’m sure your family is going through the same thing right now. My condolences go out to everyone there. Keep your chin up and stay strong man.

    -hugs-

  • October 10, 2014 at 10:43 pm

    I know how hard it is to loose a family member man. I lost my Dad and my grandpa within a 2 year span a few years ago. It sounds like your taking it well, and for that I am happy.

  • Michael Holmes

    October 11, 2014 at 12:21 am

    That’s sounds like a tough hand, we can certainly all relate. Remember that your pain counts.

  • Treise

    October 11, 2014 at 2:51 am

    And just think, he will live on through you forever, not only in real life but through your AVGN Nerd character because you quoted him~

  • Roy Sanchez

    October 11, 2014 at 3:46 am

    I am so sorry, James. I know what it is like to lose a grandpa. Yet, may his memory and lessons live on through you and be strong.

  • October 11, 2014 at 8:26 am

    My gramps passed from horrible skin cancer, which ate away half his face. My condolences man, death is a part of life, have your grieving period and get back to it.

  • October 11, 2014 at 8:47 am

    sorry to hear your grandpa passed. mine passed when i was little

  • October 11, 2014 at 10:48 am

    I know what it’s like to be close to your grandpa. I used to stay the night a lot over at my grandpa’s house when he was alive. He had an Atari and a Nintendo and I would play both for hours. He would always find cheap games at rummage sales and get them for me. Later on when I was older I went rumming with him, my uncle & my mom frequently. He had these fake switches on the dashboard that said “Machine Gun” & “Ejector Seat”. For the longest time I swore they were real. He was really fun loving, always had something funny to say and knew how to treat family with love. My thoughts go out to you and your family.

  • October 11, 2014 at 10:56 am

    You have my condolences and my prayers for your loss. I remember losing my grandpa a few years ago and it’s still sad, but my memories of him are happy and wonderful, as yours obviously are. God bless you and your family in this difficult time.

  • Joker83

    October 11, 2014 at 11:02 am

    Gosh man, I’m really sorry to read about your loss. It’s such a difficult time- best wishes to you brother.

  • October 11, 2014 at 11:19 am

    Your eulogy of him was perfect. he sounded like a great guy. Love to you and your family.

  • October 11, 2014 at 2:00 pm

    I feel for you, my grandfather also passed earlier this year, he’d been sick for a time and i’d been expecting him to die for the past few years, so it didn’t really come as a shock, but it was still a tough pill to swallow nonetheless.

    Thankfully my grandmother is still very much alive.

  • Evan Turner

    October 11, 2014 at 3:35 pm

    aw man, that sucks

  • zengie

    October 12, 2014 at 8:29 am

    Restecp.

  • Saberwolf10

    October 12, 2014 at 10:45 pm

    Sorry for your loss my friend…may he rest in peace and prayers out to you and your family but never forget the best of times you had with him =)

  • October 12, 2014 at 11:55 pm

    Lost my grandma this year. My condolences

  • Gamebrain

    October 13, 2014 at 12:42 am

    At 83, he lived a full life which was enough to see his children and grandchildren grow up and become who they are. I had to lose my father to cancer, which denied him in seeing me grow up to be the man I am today. I lost a sister due to illness, and that denies me from growing up further with her. Part of life? Yes. Can we help it? No. We don’t have a godly power to prevent the inevitable. We can only do our part which is to support and reflect on the gift of life that was given, no matter how long or short that is. My condolences to you and your family.

  • Tross

    October 13, 2014 at 1:17 am

    Aw. Sorry to hear about your loss. At least he lived to be 83, and was around long enough for you to build memories with him. He’s not truly gone, because a part of him will always live on in you.

  • CharlieBrownGhostAss

    October 13, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    Sorry to hear that, James. I also had a grandparent who died this year, too.

  • Dur

    October 13, 2014 at 8:01 pm

    Sorry for your loss. Thank you James

  • October 13, 2014 at 11:46 pm

    My condolences to you James and your family.

  • rydamusprime

    October 14, 2014 at 1:47 am

    RIP Grandpa Nerd…

    i myself have managed to go 31 years and only lose 1 grandfather, which was when i was very young, so though i remember being sad i got over it pretty quickly since such things don’t phase young children like they do young adults/adults… i lost my favorite Aunt a few years back so i do know what its like to lose a loved one you are very close too

  • MikeDaWiz

    October 14, 2014 at 2:58 am

    Im sorry for your loss, James. I have one Grandparent that is still alive. Its very hard, especially if you were closer to him then the others. You’ll be ok.

  • October 14, 2014 at 5:22 am

    I know how you feel. My step-grandfather past away ten years ago this month. You have my sincerest condolences.

  • October 14, 2014 at 8:31 am

    I can also relate. Just lost my great uncle Donell last week. He was perfectly fine in the morning and got a heart attack IN the hospital for a routine check just a few hours later.. This is my grand father’s brother, but I have fond memories. He was also a game person, very kind and a family man. He was actually the only great uncle that I was really close to especially as a kid, he introduced me to movies such as Conan the Barbarian with Arnold Schwarzenegger that I still cherish to this day… I will never forget these moments.

    But on a more positive note, you are right. Life goes on. We all go trough this at some point. Keep the faith Strannix!

  • October 14, 2014 at 9:29 am

    Damn, I visited my Grandpa this Saturday, and he’s only a year younger than yours. We watched the original 1933 “The Invisible Man” together, and I told him about your review and how you were annoyed by Una O’Conor’s screaching bitch, and soon he agreed you!

  • October 14, 2014 at 12:07 pm

    condolences nerd, you should do a tribute show for him.

  • October 14, 2014 at 2:43 pm

    My condolences to you James. My grandfather passed away and he was my favorite grandpa and went throughout the history and he was a war soldier earning medals and some stripes, but i won’t forget him and you won’t forget him too james. May your grandfather rest in peace. godspeed.

  • greedo

    October 14, 2014 at 3:10 pm

    James, I’m sorry to hear your grandfather passed. Sounds like he was a fun guy. Now I know where your sense of fun comes from! 🙂 Anyway, I know what it’s like, having a grandparent die. All four of my grandparents died when I was fairly young. When they go, it’s like a link to your past dies with with you. May he rest in peace.

  • nicolas sosa

    October 14, 2014 at 7:14 pm

    Hi james big fan over here in brooklyn sunset park. Sorry for your loss, may your grandfather rest in peace.

  • October 14, 2014 at 7:54 pm

    RIP you old codger

  • October 14, 2014 at 10:54 pm

    Sorry for your loss James! My prayers go out to you and your family.

  • Senna4ever

    October 15, 2014 at 5:38 am

    I lost both of my Grandparents last year.

    First my Nan who was suffering severe dementia. Strange that the Doctor said when she died that her body was in amazing condition for her age (97). Her heart was as strong as ever, etc. But it was as if she had outlived her body.
    Then exactly 3 weeks to the day later, my Grandfather died. He was diagnosed with stomach cancer a few months before.

    They were the last of their generation.

    I idolised both of them.
    My Gramps severed in World War 2 and was a hero, had a slew of medals, etc.

    It’s rough but it happens.

  • luconator

    October 15, 2014 at 2:48 pm

    All my condolences James. May he rest in peace.

  • Justin Middleton

    October 15, 2014 at 3:43 pm

    Dang James, that sad to hear. Our great grandmother passed away back in 08′ at age 83, that has been the most recent death in our family on my grandma’s side. I’m no stranger to deaths in our family, as my other grandpa’s mother and my uncle Paul passed away when i was little.

  • Mr. Sixty Four

    October 16, 2014 at 7:50 pm

    My deepest condolences, James.

  • October 17, 2014 at 11:43 am

    My sympathies.

  • October 19, 2014 at 7:22 pm

    My Condolences James to you and your family during this difficult time. May his memory never fade from your heart

  • October 20, 2014 at 9:18 pm

    The grandparent I was closest too passed away earlier this year. The whole “lived through a lot of history” thing is something that always crosses my mind.

    My grandma was a nurse in Britain before WWII began. I remember her telling me something about “naively thinking ‘oh, how exciting!” when war was declared on Germany… That opinion shifted abruptly over things like taking a soldier’s boot off and seeing his severed foot go with it, her brother (in the Navy) getting torpedoed on two separate occasions, and a V1 rocket landing down the street and caving in part of her house, etc…

  • DragonoftheEastblue

    October 20, 2014 at 10:50 pm

    The anniversary of my Grandfather’s death is coming up and my girlfriend’s grandfather just passed away. I know the pain well and my prayers are with you and your family. I wish I had better words to say, but I guess some things don’t need a lot of words to say.

    Cheers and all the best man.

  • Grimmjow Jeagerjaques

    October 21, 2014 at 5:45 pm

    My deepest condolences James. So sorry to hear of your loss.

  • October 22, 2014 at 6:30 am

    I’m sorry to hear about that.

  • October 22, 2014 at 10:40 am

    Sorry to hear of your loss, James. Glad you’re not letting it slow you down, as I’m sure your grandfather wouldn’t want that to happen. Best wishes.

  • skwij

    October 22, 2014 at 10:48 am

    I’m sorry to hear about this, and sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing with us.

  • October 23, 2014 at 2:12 am

    My condolences to you and your family james, Thanks for sharing it with us, Continue making him proud whereever he is. And you continue to carry on his legacy.

  • Mark Knight

    October 24, 2014 at 2:14 pm

    Sorry about your pop dude.

  • October 25, 2014 at 3:42 am

    I’m sorry for your loss James.

  • October 26, 2014 at 4:52 am

    I connected to my Facebook so I could leave a little comment and say I understand what you and your family are going through and time will indeed heal. The best thing you can do is to continue doing what you love most. May your grandfather rest in peace.

  • October 30, 2014 at 12:35 am

    My condolences to you and your family. It’s great that your grandfather was able to be a part of your life and introduce you to some stuff; be it good games or funny quotes.

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